Tuesday, February 17, 2015

When making decisions, who do you go to?

Everyone in their life at some point has to make a big decision. What those decisions are change all the time and vary depending on where you are in your life.  They also change on who makes those decisions with you.  For example, the biggest decision I had to make when I was younger was which stuffed animal I was going to sleep with for that night.  As time went on, the decisions got more and more important.  What sport I wanted to play, what college I was going to attend, what my profession was going to be, who I was going to date (though some times those decisions were taken out of my hand), and was I going to propose. 

Once that final decision was made, then I was no longer able to make decisions by myself. My decisions became a “we” decision with the wife having to have some input because they would impact both of us.

Recently, the wife and I were faced with a big decision to make.  What the decision was is unimportant. But we found ourselves asking for others to help with this decision. 
So my question is who do you go to when you have to make big decisions in your life?  Do you go to your family because they might have had to make similar decisions in their lives and can help with guidance.  But then does it become your decision or theirs?  Do you go to someone you trust and gives you guidance over the years?  Sometimes these people are great for superficial things, but really don’t help with the big time needs.  Do you talk to friends?  Friends are great as a sounding board, but how many times do you tell a friend something and they are either jealous or they try to bring you down?  Is this something that you want to deal with.

So there are plenty of people to go to when you have important things going on in your life, but is there ever a right person?  I’ve always said “advice is something you ask for when you know the answer, but wish you didn’t”.  So when the wife and I had this big decision, we took everyone’s thoughts and opinions in, but ultimately came to the decision ourselves.  We’re very happy with the outcome and will be able to share in a short amount of time.

But it got me thinking of who we all go to when important decisions need to be made.  Do we make decisions ourselves or do we take advice from others?