Everyone in their life at some point has to make a big
decision. What those decisions are change all the time and vary depending on
where you are in your life. They also
change on who makes those decisions with you.
For example, the biggest decision I had to make when I was younger was
which stuffed animal I was going to sleep with for that night. As time went on, the decisions got more and
more important. What sport I wanted to
play, what college I was going to attend, what my profession was going to be,
who I was going to date (though some times those decisions were taken out of my
hand), and was I going to propose.
Once that final decision was made, then I was no longer able
to make decisions by myself. My decisions became a “we” decision with the wife
having to have some input because they would impact both of us.
Recently, the wife and I were faced with a big decision to
make. What the decision was is unimportant.
But we found ourselves asking for others to help with this decision.
So my question is who do you go to when you have to make big
decisions in your life? Do you go to
your family because they might have had to make similar decisions in their
lives and can help with guidance. But
then does it become your decision or theirs?
Do you go to someone you trust and gives you guidance over the years? Sometimes these people are great for
superficial things, but really don’t help with the big time needs. Do you talk to friends? Friends are great as a sounding board, but
how many times do you tell a friend something and they are either jealous or
they try to bring you down? Is this
something that you want to deal with.
So there are plenty of people to go to when you have important
things going on in your life, but is there ever a right person? I’ve always said “advice is something you ask
for when you know the answer, but wish you didn’t”. So when the wife and I had this big decision,
we took everyone’s thoughts and opinions in, but ultimately came to the
decision ourselves. We’re very happy
with the outcome and will be able to share in a short amount of time.
But it got me thinking of who we all go to when important
decisions need to be made. Do we make
decisions ourselves or do we take advice from others?
